Whenever the word ‘donation’ pops up before the eyes, either you look into your purses and wallets, bypass the entire story, or think of millionaires effortlessly doing charity! Both ways you feel horribly grief-stricken, irked or simply ignore it for ‘better times’.
However, is it that a ‘donation’ needs to be this constricted?
First, let’s forget about the world at large. Let’s assume there’s only you and you. There can be two ways to handle this situation. One, shrieking immediately because you cannot afford to face yourself. All sorts of weird thoughts start cramming your mind. The other one is, you finally surrender to yourself, accept yourself without filters, and learn to actually value yourself.
Let’s take the first case. The more you avoid yourself the more you fall into danger. Remember, the world has only one human, and that is you, but you’re only fighting with yourself. How do you think you can contribute to the world? You can apply loads of makeup and wear luxuries and stand before the mirror, but do you look deep into your own eyes? When you feel guilty, shy, afraid, or regret continuously, you can never feel worthy enough. However, you forget you are way above all your fears, failures and traumas.
Now, for the second case, when you surrender like Draupadi to Madhav, what do you think you will receive? You accept your flaws, emotions, and the way you are. You learn to sit with your demons, and finally realise how important it is to be true to your own self. Once you accept this realisation wholeheartedly things begin to fall in place. Soon you see yourself in a much better light than how it started.
With trepidation at heart you still look into the mirror, straight into your eyes and your features. What do you see? At first, you see your tired face, wrinkles and fine lines, flabby or skinny arms, and disappointment all over. As you look through, you realise how your body, your self are eager to listen to your sweet and kind words, and how they are waiting to be embraced by you.
Can you not ‘donate’ a simple smile and message ‘you’re gorgeous’ like Pooh from K3G, to yourself? Can you not just say, ‘I love you’ with more enthusiasm and eagerness than you give/dream to give to your partner? Make it a daily habit like breathing and bathing, and notice the changes.
Instead of ceaseless cribbing, you must pause to remember that all your million cells in the body are listening to you. What will you receive in return? Well, healthy body talk improves your own life. Do you know, according to Louis Hay, you can even cure your diseases with this positive self-talk? Expressing gratitude to yourself works miraculously. And, isn’t your life precious, priceless? You are God-made. You are bound to be imperfect. Your flaws are your superpowers. Will you choose a factory-made doll over a real superhero?
“No, no, you don’t understand…”
A big STOP! No more mud-slinging, please. Yes, you’ve come through various phases in life. Doesn’t the gorgeous moon go through phases? Some have been too dark, almost killing you, but there has always been light with and within you. Again, you need darkness to appreciate light, and also vice versa.
Call it shadow work, inner work, or whatever you feel like, when you arm yourself with self knowledge you become unstoppable, unbeatable. As you acknowledge the power of your own thoughts, healing, and energy, you choose to divert from the trends, influences, and material possessions. You learn to focus better, use your senses well, and appreciation becomes the key of your life.
It’s time to replace criticism, complaining, and comparison with clarity, confidence, and creativity. The God-gifted world never runs out of priceless gems. You just need to tap into the one that resonates with you, and start growing and evolving.
So, how will this one ‘donation’ affect your life? I hope you can now comprehend how it will be. When you train your mind to see only the good, accept and apologise, and gracefully let go of all your baggage, you will only empty yourself. And, when you do this you make space for new opportunities, new beginnings, new growth, and obviously new life.
You learn to understand your own energy. It is sacred, and you cannot waste, misuse or damage it any more, any longer. You have to preserve and protect it at any cost.
Now, return to where you are standing right now, in this world full of noise and confusion. With this ‘donation’ you save your life- one life that will be a living inspiration. You will automatically be a glimmer in another person’s life, and another, and another. You don’t have to cross the seven seas or climb the mountains. You simply require to reconnect to yourself through learning, unlearning and relearning. There’s no shame in any one of them.
The gift of generosity, which includes healing yourself first, is the real need of this hour. Almost everyone is chasing the mirage. They are behaving like droning machines. Donation seems like a trend too. You choose to do it out of fear of ‘karma’, bribing the Almighty, leaving out, or even a social media content. Most often you don’t understand that you are not doing it sincerely. Instead of absolution you are attracting wrath and falling down in your own eyes. In the process you forget that, ‘charity begins at home’.
Image Courtesy: https://www.pexels.com/@roman-odintsov/
The gift of generosity, which includes healing yourself first, do you agree with our writer? Read the blog and let us know whats your POV?
– Amrita Mallik
About the Writer
Amrita Mallik is a writer and creative thinker based in Kolkata. A homemaker by role and a storyteller by heart, she turns to writing as a quiet refuge from the noise of everyday life and as a way to listen more deeply to herself. For her, learning is a continuous journey—one she embraces with curiosity, gratitude, and joy.
