Author: Kinjal Jain
How to stand your ground, reclaim your time & energy and refuse to be taken for granted ( without feeling guilty)?
It seems manageable to do so with not-so-familiar people but too strenuous to vend with our people.
We have to learn to say no without feeling guilty. We need to learn to respect & take care of ourselves.
Setting boundaries is healthy.
This concept sadly comes across to people as being “selfish, self-centred or rude”.
Whatever the reason, what you don’t realize is that these are just misconceptions. Just because you say “no” doesn’t mean you’re rude, unhelpful or unlikeable.
But no one acknowledges that when you are in a situation, you are the first person to deal with it. Whether anyone is available or not. You are the only one for yourself.
To make it gracious without guilt, there are subtle phrases for saying “ No” which are as follows :
- I can’t give you an answer right now, will you check back
- I’m not able to commit to that right now.
- I really appreciate you asking me, but I can’t do it.
- I understand you really need my help, but I’m just not able to say yes to that. I’m so sorry.
- I’m going to say no for now. I’ll let you know if something changes,
- No, I can’t do that, but here’s what I can do.
When you give yourself the space to stand in control of your life and say no, you’re giving yourself the best gift of all.
