We have often come across the idea that happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the farther it flies from your reach. Ironically, if we stop running after it, every once in a while, it will come and sit on our shoulders, enamouring us with its fleeting presence.
Is happiness really an ephemeral delight, or is it a misconception to believe so? Happiness, in fact, is not a material accomplishment that we need to pursue. It is a state of mind, a fragment of the being, and not something apart. Our consciousness is a reservoir containing a wealth of this coveted emotion. We only need to find a spark that ignites this wealth.
From daily life, we have several instances to prove this point. A baby in a cradle seems to be happy for no reason as he explores things around him. Unless disturbed by any physical discomfort, babies are perfect examples of unbridled joy. Their unfiltered sense of contentment permeates the surroundings so much that the people around also radiate happiness in their presence. Children are conditioned to be happy, as they go about their daily chores which, for adults, often seem like a grind.
Another instance of this happy feeling is witnessed when we observe an artist immersed in his painting, or a potter working his hands deftly on the wheel to create a masterpiece. For that matter, a writer, singer, dancer — all of them engaged in a creative pursuit — definitely seem to be happy. And surely, these people are not chasing happiness. They are, in fact, birthing their own happiness, which comes from finding a meaningful purpose in life. In Japanese culture, this purpose is termed as ‘Ikigai’, and it is finding more relevance in today’s world driven by deadlines.
Instant gratification, such as going on a shopping spree or indulging in your favourite cuisine, may be pleasurable for a while, but the feeling is not lasting. Material possessions cannot be a substitute for happiness. Our happiness is an inside job and is brought about by an overall sense of well-being. The more we tend to this garden through positive thoughts, meaningful connections, and gratefulness for the smallest of things, the happier we find ourselves. This happiness doesn’t only reflect in our countenance but shows up as good health and a radiant aura that, in turn, attracts more goodness.
Coming to the things that make us unhappy — first on the list is constant comparison with others. Life should not be treated as a race to compete in. It is a journey to be traversed, learning lessons, faltering and rising yet again. The glory lies in rising through failures and overcoming hurdles at our own pace. Comparison leads to insecurity, destroying inner calm and even affecting relationships. Tread your own path and water your own grass to make it green. Insecurity and jealousy are partners in crime that lead to self-doubt and defeat, corroding our soul.
Nature intends us to be happy, and this has been proven by science too. Scientists have identified four happiness hormones produced in the human body. These are designated as Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphin — abbreviated as DOSE. Each of these hormones is triggered as a response to a certain positive stimulus, resulting in a happy mood. For example, exercising regularly produces the feel-good hormone Endorphin, which keeps us energised through the day. A good cuddle with our child or a hug from a friend produces Oxytocin, yet another feel-good hormone, and so on. Any irregularity in the production of these hormones may trigger feelings of unworthiness and melancholy, bringing down our sense of contentment.
Thus, we eventually realise that happiness is a self-grown emotion, which stems from an innate sense of peace and contentment, bereft of material pleasures. The key to unlocking this wealth is surely in our hands, so that we are not victims of our circumstances but rather find ourselves in a position to turn any situation in our favour by practising positivity and nurturing this potent seed of happiness that has always been within us.
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– Anwesha Bhattacharya
About the Writer:
Anwesha Bhattacharya is a passionate writer of prose and poetry, deeply inspired by nature, divinity, and the nuances of the human psyche. Her creative expressions reflect a thoughtful blend of emotion and insight, often exploring the beauty in the everyday and the spiritual. A recipient of several awards and accolades, she is also an accomplished artist. Through her words and art, Anwesha continues to celebrate the timeless power of storytelling and poetry.
