The Friend I Needed Was Me
F – Friends
R – Remembrance
I – Interests
E – Energetic
N – Needed
D – Dutiful
All these qualities I looked for in my friend.
Childhood Friends
As a child, I played with children of all age groups in our building. I felt that all of them were my friends who would stand by me at any given time. As children, most of us are innocent and easily influenced by sweet talks.
In my school years, I was initially very timid till the Primary Classes. By the age of 14, I slowly began to figure out whom to trust and whom not to. It was better to stay away from some. Yes, I could gather six close friends with whom I could share my feelings and secrets. We were always seen together, and many were jealous of us: “How can these girls be so friendly?” Well, God wanted so. We are still connected after 60 years. Thank the Lord.
Middle Age Life
When you reach middle age, your views on different things take a back seat. You begin to think more about yourself and how to be your own friend. You want to do many things at a time, be a multitasker, and prove to your friends and family that you can do anything without anyone’s help. Maybe this thinking was wrong, but after going through many storms, I realized, “I am my best friend.”
This thought motivated me to complete my B.Ed. and become a teacher. I gained confidence. I brought up my children well and taught them good moral values to believe in themselves as capable. Once my responsibilities of getting them married and babysitting my three grandkids were done, I got more time to know myself in the later years of life.
The Last Phase of My Life – After 70
This is a mixture of varied emotions, as we both stay on our own, trying to manage daily struggles.
This is when I discovered that the friend I was desperately looking for was none other than me—when I looked at my smiling face in the mirror.
“Hurrah!” I shouted, “I am my best friend now.”
I can think, write my feelings on various topics, sing if I feel like it, and appreciate myself by patting my back: “Yes, you can do it.”
Being your own best friend has many advantages—no need to worry about what another friend may think of you, and no second thoughts. I can just chill and enjoy what I want.
I do have many friends: school friends of many years, blogger friends I’ve gathered, and friends from the different places where we have lived. We are still connected even after years of shifting.
Later in life, I love my peace, and I enjoy writing on different platforms. The best thing about being my best friend is that I could finally sit and write a children’s book. Today, I am the proud author of my first book. I am truly happy to have found a lifelong friend—in myself.
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– Poornima Sivaraman
About the Writer:
Poornima Sivaraman, a vibrant 74-year-young retired teacher, embodies a love for life and creativity. With a passion for connecting with people of all ages, she channels her energy into writing across various platforms, contributing to anthologies, and sharing her unique perspectives with readers.
Beyond her literary pursuits, Poornima enjoys singing and has recorded numerous songs on Star Maker, showcasing her melodious voice. A culinary enthusiast, she finds joy in cooking and believes in living a simple, meaningful life. Dedicated to helping others whenever possible, Poornima is a true advocate of kindness and positivity.
