“A heart is a special part of our body that can store many good and bad incidents and memories.”
Is there any rule for a heart to know which ones to store and which ones to delete?
Is there a time frame for the heart to keep different memories for days, months, or years?
It should be an individual choice for people to remember what they want in their hearts. It is a natural process.
Mrs. X may fill her heart with her happy childhood memories. She may like to remember those golden years and talk about them with her Mr. Y, her children, and grandchildren. She takes pride in narrating her childhood masti and pranks, and feels elated.
Mr. Y may like to remember what is in his heart about his college years—flirting, and how he was caught red-handed by his parents. His wife teases him about his rejection by her friend. They laugh together, recalling funny incidents and memories stored in their hearts.
Parents’ hearts love to remember the happy moments spent with their children during their childhood years: when their child first walked, stumbled, and stood up. The proud moments of their children winning awards are precious memories a parent should cherish and hold in their hearts as they age.
“Make your heart tough and strong. You may witness and may have to store and remember unwanted memories in your heart in your later years, even though you do not want to.”
We have heard this several times from our elders.
Yes, it is true. A child who had to face hardship due to illness, and the pain of seeing him suffer, lingers in your heart for a long time and comes back as a flashback when you see or hear another going through that pain. The hidden feeling inside the heart pops up and saddens you, and you offer your prayer to that child who is suffering now.
The loss of a loved one in the family is instilled in the heart, and one remembers the time spent with that dear person.
It is easier to say, “Fill your heart with good positive thoughts to sleep well.” It is a good idea, but does it always happen? No. Life is unpredictable, and at any given time, sad incidents occur. The heart is filled with remorse, and it accumulates.
When a person is busy with work, they do not realize the heart’s thoughts, and they move on in life.
Some may say, “I do not have time to stop and remember what the heart is going through as long as it is pumping fine.”
When one completes all his or her responsibilities of marrying their children, enjoying time with grandchildren, and has leisurely hours to sit together, various thoughts of good and sad remembrance come out automatically.
The tears of joy and sorrow flow down their cheeks, and if the partners are lucky to be together, they reminisce about those feelings of the heart and talk about them openly.
This is the way to move on.
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– Poornima Sivaraman
About the Writer:
Poornima Sivaraman, a vibrant 75-year-young retired teacher, embodies a love for life and creativity. With a passion for connecting with people of all ages, she channels her energy into writing across various platforms, contributing to anthologies, and sharing her unique perspectives with readers.
Beyond her literary pursuits, Poornima enjoys singing and has recorded numerous songs on Star Maker, showcasing her melodious voice. A culinary enthusiast, she finds joy in cooking and believes in living a simple, meaningful life. Dedicated to helping others whenever possible, Poornima is a true advocate of kindness and positivity.
