Author: Dr. Mrinalini Kakkar
“Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it…it dies”
~Tony Gaskins
It is important to keep the spark of your relationship alive, not only about
keeping the spark of sexual passion, but the most essential element of any marriage is communication.
Research has shown that the couples who “Talk” and “Spend time with each other”, have more probability of sharing healthy and long-lasting relationship.
Moreover, the issues of mental and emotional breakdown reduces tremendously and the ebullience of relationship lasts forever.
When you feel something is missing in your relationship, just don’t look for passion about sex, but think;
Why there is an increase in communication gap?
What is missing?
Why it is missing?
Most of the times the question of “he” has changed or “she” has changed arises.
Try to rule out the why’s?
and go for how to rectify?
Opt for thr solutions, rather than choosing the extreme options of separation or divorce.
Here are a few tips to keep communication alive in your relationship, and regain the spark of togetherness.
- Alter your routine from boring monochrome to colorful interesting conversation.
(Even if you are working, take out time for each other.) - Sharing is caring.
(Mind it: Even if you are married for 20 years, there are many things you don’t know about each other, so share.) - Plan to enjoy at least one meal together.
- Don’t talk only about kids, parents, expenses, but about each other. Try to appreciate each other’s presence, aspirations and goals. How both can together work in the same direction to achieve them.
- Talk about each other’s insecurities, fears and anxieties. Talk how you can together cope up during those difficult situations.
- Play the melodies together and enjoy each other’s taste.
- Talk about childhood memories, which are close to everyone’s heart and will help bring you closer together.
- Complement and appreciate each other for small gestures. Give a kiss and warm hug.
- Turn off the distractions, like phone or television.
- Never leave any close-ended questions. Be open and receptive to each other opinions.
At least at the end of the day, communicate with each other, about how’s the day or anything, but Talk, talk and talk…
Without a good communication, you are flying blind and solo in your life, and that’s not the essence of your marriage.
So, what are you waiting for…talk to your spouse, if don’t have any interesting topic…talk about this post and get started.