“Family bond” plays an important role in any family.
They say, “A family is the greatest support system.” This has been true for ages, and I believe it holds true even in present times.
In my childhood, I saw that my maternal home was a huge family. I have not seen my grandfather (Nana), but I stayed with my grandmother for many years. When we used to visit her house in Kerala, at Punkunnam, where I was born, it was a huge house with a swing, big rooms, a spacious kitchen, and a storeroom. We siblings used to get ecstatic.
They had numerous coconut trees, mango trees, curry leaves, and banana trees. The elders used to tell us, “Do not venture into the backyard after sunset. Foxes and hyenas roam at times.” But as children, we defied and slipped out holding hands. As we ventured further, we heard strange movements and sounds. We got scared and, without making a sound, walked back home and closed the door. Mama was standing there and warned us not to go outside again.
Hmm… what to say about Nani’s dishes—her cooking still lingers in my mind. There were at least six children in our family across my uncle’s and aunt’s houses. The bond between brothers, sisters, and cousins was very strong. Everyone was there for each other.
Life moved on, and children moved to different states and countries. The distance between family members widened, but the bond remained the same. Everyone met during marriages or family functions. All were happy and felt united again. During weddings, everyone made efforts to attend and reconnect. If any family member was in trouble, everyone came together to help.
When children observe elders being respected, they naturally learn moral values and understand the importance of family bonds.
As years rolled on, joint families slowly turned into nuclear families. A family of three or four became the norm. Everyone became busy with their own work, mobiles, friends, and social groups. It is not that they do not respect their elders; it is just that lifestyles have changed, work pressures have increased, and people find less time to visit or connect.
This has made a noticeable difference in family bonds. Instead of attending functions, greetings or online gifts are often sent.
“Oh! What to do? We do not get holidays easily, so it is difficult to attend.”
I understand that lifestyles have changed over time, and we cannot blame anyone.
The word bond holds deep emotions. A mother and child bond begins even before birth, when she carries her child in her womb. As parents raise a child, this bond grows stronger, and they do their best for their children.
When children grow up, get married, and families expand, the bond continues to evolve.
It depends on family members to maintain positive energy and ensure that misunderstandings do not create distance or weaken relationships.
One may argue, “Change is necessary according to modern development.”
Yes, that is true. But why should behavior towards family and loved ones change negatively? People can adopt new technologies, digital tools, or AI advancements while still preserving human values.
One should not forget basic values of respect and emotional connection within the family.
Relationships should never feel like a compulsion. They should be voluntary, warm, and heartfelt.
There may be many changes in the coming years, and older generations should try to adapt with understanding.
The generation gap is also gradually reducing.
We, as elders in the present time, think twice before speaking to our children and grandchildren—the so-called Gen Z. We understand that times have changed, and we must be careful while giving advice, especially when it is not asked for. Through all this, we must ensure that family bonds remain strong.
Perhaps, our children may experience similar changes when they become grandparents one day.
Family bonds between nations also change depending on political situations and disputes. Many relationships become distant over time.
Some people even fear maintaining bonds due to fear of judgment or social isolation.
Is this what the world wanted—a change where families stay apart and elderly homes increase everywhere? These homes have both positive and negative effects on the emotional well-being of elders. Some adjust well, while others struggle, but they still try to build bonds with people around them.
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– Poornima Sivaraman
About The Writer:
Poornima Sivaraman is a vibrant 75-year-young retired teacher with a lifelong passion for creativity and connecting with people of all ages. A long-time blogger and now the proud author of “My Collection of Stories for Children”, she launched the book on her 75th birthday in June 2025. The collection of 15 moral-value stories has received warm appreciation and positive reviews on Amazon.
Poornima writes for multiple platforms, contributes to anthologies, and enjoys sharing her unique perspectives with readers. Beyond writing, she sings on Star Maker, loves cooking, and believes in living a simple, meaningful life. As a storyteller and Awareness Ambassador with the Spectrum Group, she continues to inspire others through kindness, positivity, and her enduring creative spirit.
